9 Things that Get Guys Discouraged during Long-Distance Relationships

6. Suddenly showing up without contacting him first


“Are you trying to surprise him? It just ends up being scary,” said one guy. If you show up unexpectedly out of nowhere, rather than being happy, he may be at a loss for how to respond. However, if it’s for a special event like a birthday or an anniversary, he’s more likely to be pleased.