7. All fights should be resolved by talking calmly and without yelling
This is a great goal to have, but if you start fighting with your boyfriend, he doesn’t want to hear, “You broke a rule! You can’t yell at me.” The last thing on his mind is the fact that he broke a rule, and he’s not going to apologize for that. The focus of any argument should only be the issue at hand and your goal (not rule) to talk it out as calmly as possible.