2. She is too reserved when she speaks.
Your date will feel a sense of distance between you and him when you talk in a very reserved manner, as a guy in his 20s explained. “It was like she was trying to build a wall between us.” If you’re not good at having a casual conversation, come up with a believable excuse such as: “It’s just a habit I’ve developed—maybe from speaking formally at work all the time.” This way, he won’t take it personally.