5. Show him you’re trying to deepen the relationship: “I want to be even closer to you.”
“In that case, we’d start talking about how we can both become a bit more mature in the relationship.” Showing him that your aim is to improve the relationship will make it easier for him to talk about what’s bothering him. If you tell him beforehand, “I definitely don’t want to fight,” you can avoid saying unnecessary and hurtful things to each other.