2. A woman who is strictly private.
“I feel a definite wall between her and myself,” says a discouraged young man in his 20s who ponders this obstacle. By being secretive and private, you give people the impression that you’re only ready for a superficial friendship, and, amongst everyone, he will feel the most dejected. Even if you’re a private person, there must be some topics you feel comfortable sharing with him. Find his favorite music or movies and try to develop and enjoy some common threads.