2. “Which is more important, your work or me?”
There is no sensible way to compare the two. Every time he hears this provoking question, he feels a tremendous weight on his shoulders. In some cases, it is a total turn-off. If you catch yourself about to ask this question, it’s better to bite your tongue. If you want to confirm your position in his life, don’t use a comparison. Ask him a straightforward question, which is much easier for him to answer in most cases anyway.