3. “You’re so quiet.”
This is the same as saying that he’s an introvert. “I’m not good at striking up a conversation. Now I’m even more self-conscious about opening my mouth, “ a despairing young man in his late teens told us. Pointing out the fact that he’s not much of a talker is like rubbing salt in his open wounds. He may clam up even more. If he’s not ready to jump into a conversation, you’ll need to take the lead and gradually draw him in.