9 Reasons Your Boyfriend Talks about His Ex

3. He feels like his girlfriend lacks something that his ex-girlfriend had

“I do this when I want my girlfriend to put more effort into cooking.” Guys talk about their exes because their girlfriends lack the special skills their exes had. If your boyfriend mentions things like, “My ex was a really good cook” or “My ex was really organized,” you could make an effort to improve the points he specifically mentions.