2. Give him a specific reason, such as, “It’s my friend’s birthday that day.”
He won’t take it personally as long as he knows why you turned him down. “I immediately think women aren’t interested when they give vague excuses,” a guy in his 20s said. He will understand if you give him specific reasons. For example, if you’re going to a wedding, talk about the friend who invited you. If you already have something you have to take care of that day, let him know what it is (though you don’t have to get too detailed if it’s personal, of course).