9. Try and do some candle play, keeping the mood light
“Start it as a joke and be playful about it. Then, as you gradually get more serious, he should adjust to it.” When you do bring out candles so that you can drip hot wax on each other, make sure you are playful about it. You can even use excuses like “This is to spice up things in the bedroom” and men should be willing to try.